To be in controlled, I have to own my own life. I have to recognize what is mine and what I am liable to. Follows is what I discover:
The past is gone, it is not mine.
The future is a non-existence.
What others do, may it be to me, to other beings or things, is non of my business. It is between them and God.
What is mine is my soul.
What exist is my present moment.
What is my business is what I do, whether at my will or in reaction to external factors, because I have to answer each of it to God.
Therefore, my focus in life is 'Being my soul in every moment of my life'. The soul is the doorway to the truth, so let my life be guided by the truth.