This post is actually a continuation of the previous post: Mind Your Own Business. Often times we couldn't help thinking about the past. The scene just keep on playing in our mind even though we stop it every time we become aware of it. It just keep on coming back.
So how do we stop it. The answer is your focus. Your mind will start thinking on where you are focusing on. If your mind is idle and you are not focusing on anything in particular then it tends to play the most accessible or recent memories. Thus, never let your mind be idle. Focus on your present moment. Observe yourself. Stop bothering about others, the past and the future, but focus on yourself and your present moment. If you decided to be good and beneficial no matter what, then observe yourself doing it. No one is responsible for your action except you yourself.
Focusing on the good and positives in the present moment will create a good and positive life. Forget about the past and the worries. Trust God on those matters. Watch yourself every moment. Ideally, in each moment your can be in one of three states of inner-being. You either can be in acceptance, or enjoyment or enthusiasm. Make sure you are in either one of the three states in every moment you live in.
Care for yourself, love yourself and make the best out of yourself. Instead of bothering about others and the non-existence (the past and the future), be your own best friend; always there to guide, to love, to correct, to remind and to help yourself.